@iones_island asked me in his latest post a couple of questions in regards to finding success. He wanted to know how I define success and what are my deepest ambitions. I will make my best attempt to answer these questions.

If you take a look at the dictionary definition, you will see for the most part, it is a selfish word. I say selfish because the definition seems to focus on how 'great' or 'awesome' a particular person or event is. However, we all know that success has many facets to how you define it. The first definition actually speaks to a "favorable outcome of a termination of attempts." I think that is the least selfish one, yet the most often forgotten one.

A child speaking its first word after two years of silence. A self-absorbed teenager who finally goes out to volunteer for the local food drive after months of encouragement from relatives. Scoring a perfect 100 on a math test after nights and nights of all-nighters, study guides, after-school tutoring, homeworks, etc. Little achievements. Reaching a goal. More often than not, people ignore or forget about the little things. I would like to define success by the little things we are able to accomplish. Yes, some achievements are purely self-enrichment, but little things like paying someone a compliment can contribute to a positive impact on others and should not be left out when it comes to success.

A Mercedes-Benz. Making partner in a law firm. Being crowned Prom King or Queen. Finally getting seated in a high-end restaurant after waiting outside for a couple of hours. Named one of the sexiest females under 25 for the year. Appearing on a magazine cover. Our little achievements are overshadowed by the second part of the definition: wealth, money, fame, honors, etc. Especially in America, I think the media has done a lot of damage in that sense. To be happy and successful, you've got to drive this car, wear these clothes, live in this mansion, and the list goes on and on. There's nothing wrong with making a lot of money, but I think if you start to define success that way, you'll never get it. Even a video game has an ending, but money success has no top level. There's always another higher level to reach. Trying to reach it is futile. It is also very lonely at the top. 

So I would define success as every little achievement that we can make that has a positive impact on others. And if I could spread that message to as many people as I can, one story at a time, I think that would be my deepest ambition. Hope that answers your questions. :P

http://depositphotos.com/1337031/stock-photo-Hourglass.html

I realized after my ex and I ended things that we had never taken any pictures together.

That's me though. I don't take pics with my SO and I don't buy a special ringtone and assign it to my SO. I just don't do 'couply' things like that for fear of what happens when it's all over. I won't have to stare at pictures in frames and be reminded, I won't have wasted $1.29 that I will never get back and never have use of the ringtone again, I won't have trinkets and any gifts from him that I'd have to take time throwing away, and so far I think this is what has kept me sane. Does this make me very cynical about relationships? I'm still trying to figure that out.

I guess if one day I can find framed pictures around in my room, my POV will have changed and that must mean I really care. Is that bad?

This coming from the girl who grew up on watching Disney movies...-_-